Therapy is something that has only recently be able to lose some of the stigma around it and become more accepted. Years ago, therapy was for crazy and unstable people and that was it. Nowadays, it seems like therapy is for anyone who is mentally ill and needs some help coping. But I’ve got news for you: it’s not just for those types of people! It’s also for neurotypical people, too! You don’t have to be seriously depressed or anxious or any other mental illness. Therapy can help enrich your life and help anyone learn to live in a way that will bring them more happiness and peace. Here are my top reasons that I think more people should consider going to therapy:
Learn to control your emotions
Do you ever feel an emotion and it feels like you can’t help but to get lost in? Ever gotten so angry you can’t see straight or so sad you’ve cried in bed at night. Everyone experiences these types of emotions some time in their life. They don’t have to be so extreme as to be a symptom of a larger mental illness. Regular ups and downs in life can have extreme effects on you, emotionally and mentally. One thing you learn in therapy is how to control those emotions. Not get rid of them, because you can’t just think or wish about negative emotions. That will just suppress them for a while until they come bursting out later. In therapy, you learn to feel the emotion, acknowledge that you’re feeling it, and go through it. With this ability you can learn to notice emotions before they become overwhelming, cope with the negative ones, and communicate your feelings better with other people.
I think a lot of people are suppressing a lot of things. Anger, sadness, jealousy, nervousness, the list goes on. It can be really scary to face these emotions head on and lot of work to get through them in a healthy manner. Therapy helps to make it easier and more natural to accept your emotions, rather than deny them.
A great listening ear
The best part about therapists is that they are a neutral, third party to your life. They don’t know all your friends, they don’t go to work with you, and they’re not in your family. The only thing they know about you and your life is what you choose to tell them. Of course choosing to hide or lie about your life will make therapy an ineffective tool, but you don’t have to tell them anything more than your comfortable with. A therapist is someone who will listen to your problems and give you an honest but neutral answer. They won’t tell you that others have it worse than you, or that the friend you’re fighting with is right or wrong. They will just help you face whatever your problem is and teach you how to react in a healthy way.
Become more kind to yourself
Therapy will teach you to have compassion for yourself. So often we judge ourselves so much more harshly than we would ever judge other people. We think that since we know ourselves best, we know the most about how much we mess up or are bad at different things. But at the end of the day, we’re only human too. Everyone makes mistakes, not everyone is good at everything, and being cruel to ourselves isn’t going to help anything. It’s important to be patient and kind with yourself. You deserve the same care and fairness that you would give someone else if they were in your position. Therapy helps with that by teaching you to take a step back from your emotions, ask yourself if you’re being unfair to yourself, and try a little compassion. We tend to try tough love first, but sometimes you just need a little love sans tough.
I can’t recommend therapy enough to everybody. Learning to control your emotions, having someone hear your side of the story, and becoming more loving with yourself are only a few of the benefits that therapy can have on your life. It’s not just for mentally ill people. Mentally healthy people can still have obstacles in their lives that they need help overcoming. A therapist is there to do just that.